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Post by Rick Redner on Jun 22, 2014 9:40:54 GMT -5
Often men and couples coping with prostate cancer turn to forums for information and emotional support. You might expect those who are walking on a similar path will understand what you are going through. Unfortunately that assumption may be inaccurate. Receiving the diagnosis of prostate cancer is usually an emotional shock. It's also a reason to begin a grieving process. As soon as you receive this diagnosis you'll face a series of losses. Here's two that may it you immediately: 1. The loss of your good health 2. The loss of the expectations you had for a healthy retirement After choosing a course of treatment there may be other losses involving the quality of life, your sexuality, your sense of manhood, and other losses. If you decide to share your emotional reactions to these losses you may not receive understanding or healthy advice. Read this story of a man who wanted to begin the grief process with others coping with PC. Sadly he was shut down and discouraged from embarking on an emotional healthy endeavor. If this happens to you, don't give up, find someplace else where someone will understand. Perhaps on this forum. Read his story here: Why Men & Copes Often Grieve AloneHere's why it took me 3 years to grieve my losses after surgery: Why It Took Me 3 Years To Finish GrieivngIf you want to share the things you've lost, or your emotional reaction to the things you've lost, here's a safe place to do that. If others offer you unhealthy advice, I'll say so.
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Post by theszak on Oct 2, 2014 15:24:43 GMT -5
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Post by Rick Redner on Oct 5, 2014 14:37:44 GMT -5
Thezak, We don't have an active posting community right now, but hundreds of people are visiting our forum every month for information. Thanks for sharing other forums for men to visit. Rick
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Post by theszak on Jan 27, 2015 17:16:20 GMT -5
TheZac The participants in certain prostate cancer forms receive undeserved harsh responses of the kneejerk overreactive authoritarian types.
I've edited your post for a variety of reasons. I know that you've posted a very similar thread in other prostate cancer forums. I also know from own personal experiences exactly what forum you are talking about. I had a very similar experience.
In fact, one of the moderators followed me onto two other forums and began attacking my posts there as well. One forum provided the opportunity to report him, and he was warned to stop and he did. The other forum allowed him to continue to attack my posts.
I didn't go on line in a campaign against the forum, the moderator who was following me, or the other forum that permitted his negative comments, I simply left those forums. Think back, it wasn't just one specific moderator, there was a number of men who were harsh and judgmental. Since that's not a community where you (or I) fit in, leaving is the appropriate response. It's inappropriate for you to take this battle onto other prostate cancer support forums. If you want to effect some type of change so you can rejoin that community take your fight to that forum. Using this, and other forums to blast this community, makes you look bad in every forum where you take and advertise your grievance.
Forums are meant to provide help and support to men and couples coping with prostate cancer. They are not here to be used to wage war on other prostate cancer support forums. I urge you to resume using your experiences to help people cope with cancer and give up this on-line war you've engaged in.
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